Wednesday, February 19, 2014
I always find that if I have a start date, especially if it's January 1st, I tend to make a lot of mistakes & flub it up for a while, then drop the goal because I couldn't get it right.
So, I figured out a way to knock that shizza off:
#1. I get to the root of WHY I want this goal. Superficial reasons are totally ok.
#2. I'll create a start date & a goal in mind. Then, several weeks before (or days, if I only have a few days), I practice doing the goal.
#3. Respect & own that I will do this goal imperfectly for a while before I create small habits that can be sustained over a long period of time: habits created slowly, without criticizing, & with the intent of being imperfect--imperfectly me!
This realization of imperfect goal setting came about from trying to quit smoking. I smoked for over 3 years (maybe it was longer, I'm not sure because it's not a notable piece of my history I feel compelled to keep detailed notes on). I tried quitting so many times. I would have terrible anxiety attacks related from it, my breathing was painful, & felt so dried out (eyes, nose, mouth, skin).
Despite the health factor, it was superficial reasons that brought me to quit. I don't want to laugh like a 90-year-old man, because I'm not a 90-year-old man. Also, the only lines I want around my eyes & mouth are laugh lines. Screw that, JOY LINES.
I quit so many times, I can't even keep track. Hell, I didn't keep track. Failing was embarassing, but I noticed, by practicing quitting smoking (my grammar nerds are probably pissed at my use of gerunds--sorry friends!) developed a greater ability to hold a quit for longer periods of time. One day, it simply wasn't an issue anymore. It took quitting, failing, quitting, failing, then quitting again with no expectations of how perfect I would be to finally quit. Plus, the inner critic jumped off a bridge because I wasn't hearing it! My imperfect practice of practicing enabled me to continue on practicing, practicing, practicing. Goodbye, Marlboros & American Spirits! Hello, liberated bright-eyed pink-faced lungs!
Oh, & one thing I did keep notes on: I've been ciggie-free since 2005. Own!
Much much more recently, I decided to begin a vegetarian diet (look at my bio, I've been thinking about it for a long time...speaking of bios I'm going to update that soon). There were several hundred reasons but the most genuine reasons are #1. to activate on a higher vibration (that's Zo-speak for "feel better all spiritually, mentally, physically, emotionally") & #2. there is no such thing as a humane way to slaughter an innocent being. WAIT! Don't run away! I'm not here to preach on #2 (yet, tee hee), but I am being honest about my reasons.
So, I knew it was something I had to do to be my most authentic self. But, I set no expectations. I said to myself,
"Self, I am going to fuck this up so many times because I really want to do this right. I'm scared shitless of screwing up because I have a habit of wanting to be perfect. But I am going to do this imperfectly; & if I do it imperfectly, I will feel good about having met my goal of being an imperfect vegetarian. And one day, it'll be seamless & perfect & I won't even have to think about getting it right, because it simply will be." Yes, I really said that. Self-speak is CRUCIAL because we all fight that self-speak-critic who tells us we're not smart/fit/pretty/funny/busty/etc. enough.
Two weeks after going green, I ate meat on 2 different occasions. Now, it's been almost two full months of eating a plant-based meal (I refuse to count the first few weeks of the new year because that is SO cliche) & I have ZERO desire to go back to meat. (My new heroes over at www.Veganproteins.com have delicious products to get more than enough protein & B-12 & zinc, all of which are soy-free & gluten-free! Boo & hiss to soy!) Also, can I just say, I feel AMAZING?! Plus, my skin is super dewy & glowy; I've even stopped wearing foundation. High-vibing, friends! That's what happens when you are being & loving your most authentic self.
So where are you at on your goals--are you feeling frustrated? Check in with them & with your self-speak. It may help to loosen your grip just enough & strangely set the bar a little low. Be gracious to yourself, like you would be to a friend who's fed up with her/his imperfections. Be beautifully imperfect right now; intentionally imperfect & imperfectly practicing.
Remember, you'll get it imperfect every single time, until you don't.
Monday, February 17, 2014
I know all of the women behind M,M&M are constantly working on their bodies. Some of us do yoga, others work their ass off instructing spin and the rest of us are avid CrossFitters that seem to find little time for anything else but WOD's and getting the next PR!
If you are anything like any one of my amazing friends, you are dedicated to living a healthy lifestyle, putting nourishing food and thought into your body and obtaining security within yourself in a very insecure world.
I came across this video today of what REAL women would look like if they were photographed and photoshopped like cover girls. It's amazing to see how their perspectives changed on their true beauty and individuality.
I know that every imperfection is what makes me unique; the freckles that I've had since childhood and every wrinkle that I've developed over the years from laughing and living life! After watching this video, I hope that you also find a new found love for the skin that you are in!
Tuesday, February 4, 2014
Creamy Asparagus Soup
2 tablespoons of coconut or olive oil
1/4 cup of chopped shallots
1 pound of asparagus steamed (I used a package of frozen asparagus and sautéed them until tender)
Black pepper to taste
2 cups of chicken stock
I cup of full fat coconut milk (I used one can)
Heat oil in a large sauce pan. Sauté the shallots for 5 minutes or until tender. Place the shallots and the steamed asparagus in a blender or food processor and puree until smooth. Season with black pepper.
Transfer the asparagus puree back to the sauce pan. Add the remaining ingredients and heat to a simmer. Simmer for 20 minutes and serve.
I loved this soup, but I also love asparagus. I'm sure the soup would also be fantastic using broccoli or cauliflower instead of asparagus.....Ohhh loaded cauliflower soup with bacon and green onions sounds fantastic. I will come up with a recipe for that soon!